Your Ex Boyfriend Isn't Worth Your Soul
by: John Belair on Sat, 18 Apr 2009 at: 11:13 AM Go to: Previous Article Next Article
The trauma of a breakup is never an easy thing to put up with. There are times if everything you do seems to shove him farther away, and where you're at your wits end trying to figure out something, anything you can do. Here are some proven techniques to get you over this hurdle.
The first one is assessing how serious you are about restarting or boosting your relationship. Now, you wouldn't be reading this article if you didn't want to do this, but let's step back a moment. If you're feeling anxious, if you're feeling like your world is revolving around your ex, you may be coming across as needy. Nothing, and we do mean nothing, pushes a guy away faster than being needy.
Well, stop it. You deserve better than that. If you're obsessing about getting him back, we've got news for you. It ain't gonna happen. He dumped your sorry butt for a reason, and being mopey about it isn't going to fix the problem. For that matter, trying to make him pity you is the single best way to be certain that he leaves your life, at high speed, and never ever looks back.
Focus on this strategy to get what you want. Start with a fresh approach. Break contact for a while, and do your own thing. Have your own life. Remember, a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle; you had a life before he was part of it, you'll have a life now. Focus on doing things that validate you, and make you feel good about yourself. Call your buddies, and go out and do stuff. Nothing was ever solved by sitting at home and moping.
OK, what you're doing right now? It's called projecting. And it isn't helping. He's going to read that hurt and that pity party in your head in the set of your shoulders, the look in your eyes, or, more than likely by the way you call him twice a day and bawl at him, IM him, or try to make him feel sorry for you. The only one feeling sorry for you is you, and until you stop, he isn't going to want to be with you.
Take a different approach. Think about what your life was like before you found this guy. You had friends. You did some pretty cool stuff with them. They're still out there, and you should gang with them and go do something fun. Get the hell out of the house.
While you're at it, get his phone number off your cell, don't read his LiveJournal or Facebook profile, don't look into his life. Focus on yours. Learn to cook. Knit a sweater, Volunteer at your local homeless shelter or library. Take up rock climbing or, hell, Dungeons and Dragons. Do things that interest youand if he doesn't hear from you, let the burden be on him to ask what the hell is going on.
The other bit of a strategy is to be mysterious. If he left you because the relationship had gotten stale, a bit of mystery can be a godsend. He'll want to know how to get back into your life and the fun times you're having. Now, this isn't quite playing hard to get - this is reminding him that he's the one missing out for not hanging out with you.and it is the surefire answer to the question "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?
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