5 Ways to Get Back at Your Lover - Should You?
by: Jeremi Hany on Wed, 25 Mar 2009 at: 3:32 PM Go to: Previous Article Next Article
Every relationship needs effort to maintained and built up so that it can stay healthy and flourish. Unfortunately, no one is immune to breakup and breakups do happen. Every breakup is always frustrating, stressful and nerve wracking.
If you have just broken up with your ex, you may be considering getting back at your ex. But before you start doing anything, it is always a good idea to think twice. Do you really believe that this is the best step to take? Perhaps, a better approach to get back at your ex is to place your ex in an interesting predicament. This may help you save your relationship by showing him or her how important you are to them.
The following 5 tips you are going to learn are not only great for getting back at your ex but are also useful in helping you get your ex back too.
1) Stay strong. No one likes to be around a needy person and this is particularly true in a broken relationship. Don't do things like clinging, begging or display any other form of behaviors that portrays desperation. You need to let your ex think that you have already moved on and is doing just fine without him or her by staying strong. If you have moved on, your ex will then realize they haven't.
2) Cut down your communication to the minimum. You probably feel that this step is quite counter intuitive if what you really want is to win your ex back. In any case, this is probably one of the most important steps you need to take if you do want to win your ex back. Take a break from him or her and do not initiate any form of contact for the time being. The benefit is that it will give your ex some time to really think about how precious your relationship was.
3) Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised if they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking if the breakup came into play.
4) Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite eating carrots, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.
5) Just be yourself. There was probably a good reason or two why you and your ex fell in love with each other in the first place. So, go back to being yourself and your ex may start to recall why they fell in love with you in the first place.
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